Imagine for just a moment that men, creators of social and moral codes, knew in the infancy of their need and desire to control
and manipulate "conformity"; that the very rules they created would imprison themselves to a vanilla existence. An existence that at its best is a fraud, at its worse a psychosomatic roller coaster ride of deception and self-delusion.
I have always wondered what men would do under the auspices of Fran Lebowitz's quote: ”Any white gentile straight male who is not President of the United States failed.” If that quote isn't a written law of man's moral and social existence, it is one of a de facto existence.
Men have the weight of the world on their shoulders, while chasing the power to rule the very world that is crushing them. While eventually "Atlas Shrugged" man just persistently chase a goal like a hamster runs in its wheel.
Now being male isn't a horrible position in life:
Better Pay
Lilly Ledbetter exists for a reason. 77 cents for every dollar men make is one hell of a raw deal.
But that is the end results of a procedural breakdown of perceived psychological oppression.
A woman in a position of power is deemed intimidating at best; a bitch at worse. While the burden of being a women in the workforce, the man has an advantage of being labeled a go-getter, free spirit, a major player on the rise.
Better rules
Women's liberation gave credence to a voice that had not been heard or acknowledged.While permission was needed to be something other than a mother, wife, second banana, secretary, teacher, or a nurse. But for men the sky is the limit.We have the access to freedom of living in a society that proclaims "its a man's world".
Sexually freer than their counterparts
Lets just put it out there, we ARE the hunters, the predators, the caveman. 50 conquests makes us a stud. 10 partners...the woman is a slut. Chastity is the only accepted role of a woman, until the man takes her to bed, the she had better be a mix of Vanessa Del Rio and Nadia Comăneci. The archetypal woman is polar opposites of men, where her "role" is sub, his is superior.
Less expectation of emotions
The strong and silent types are praised in media like Gladiators at the Colosseum. A woman with emotions is a damned if she does, damned if she doesn't. The balance of being just the right type of emotional quotient can make a woman an emotional "Sybil".
Representation of the "Solution"
Eve destroyed paradise...never a mention that Adam knew better.
Women are a jinx for ships...
Cleopatra took down Mark Antony...
Delilah weakened Samson...
But men are the white knight, the cavalry, the savior...nice work if you can get it.
Now all those things can be construed as better, but let's be honest, the sword has a double edge:
If not successful financially, can be deemed a failure
A millionaire that has a reality show based on his fist pumping and lack of intellectual properties receives praise but men who teach our children or is a nurse in an ER at times can be labeled a "pansy."
Donald Trump is a joke, but he can use "the common folk" as a punchline.
While the rules are better, the question should be "better than what?"
This life of disappointment may suck, but at least "I'm not a woman." Cant be the King, but relish in the thought that at least you aren't the pawn. Men take solace in the traditions of being all the things that come with being the stronger sex, but need to ask stronger than what? Are they truly better in a world that the rules you agree to, you don't agree with. You cant see discrimination because you didn't, haven't, or wont reach your potential. Your dreams are superseded by rules that say you cant do this, you cant be that, or you wont get to have this.
Are you truly better than women if you aren't the best YOU can be?
Sexually can be scrutinized heavily the further they go outside of the very restrictive rules they created
Be gay expect to know you have broken a rule. Admit that a man looks good and your masculinity is in question. Interested in sexual fetishes, something MUST be wrong with you. Don't have a fond appreciation for the size 2 model on the front cover of Vogue, you need therapy. Just be a man's man or be told and treated like less than a man.
Emotionally can be psychologically harming
The "Alan Alda" era didn't spread out through out the country, nor did it last long. Cant be "too emotional" as if we know what that is? You can "be in touch with your emotions"...just don't let everyone in on that. Remember, its the strong and silent type, because only the strong survives.
The emotional dance is hard to understand the tempo, the beat, or even which/when partner should lead or follow.
At what point can men ask the question:
Are the rules making me a player or making me feel played?
Are you free, not in the sense of free being a slave, but a slave that cant identify the chains?
Are the dreams you have your own, or did you "fall in line"?
Can you see that what women deal with isn't an issue of being unfair, or being something you as an individual cant overcome?
The rules don't work. The traditions are antiquated and has long been obsolete. We cant be the masters of our own destiny if we have already set parameters and restrictions to our dreams.
I posted this because its been a man's world in application for far too long. This world isn't working out the way we...the men...women...wanted.
Its time to dream...act on them...be them.
Men have lost their dreams...lost their way...just to clip wings of those that know they can fly.
Oppression hasn't worked...a world of special people deserve to be special. We need to let everyone into the table so that we can eat more...more insight...more information...more stability...more security...
More us being us...not us vs. them...
THERE AREN'T ANY THEM...
WE ALL BLEED...
WE ALL BREATHE...
WE ALL NEED TO FLY...
ONLY THEN CAN WE ALL DREAM...
